Anais Gutierrez
‘The Big Bang Theory’ star Melissa Rauch is expecting a baby with husband Winston Rauch in the fall. The actress announced the big news in an essay for Glamour published Tuesday.
In the heartfelt essay, Rauch also opened up about her previous miscarriage, depression and her emotional journey with the happy news.
Emotional journey toward becoming a mom
Melissa Rauch is pregnant following a tragic miscarriage. She has an important message about it, which she delivered in a heartfelt and intimate essay for Glamour.
‘The Big Bang Theory‘ star, who plays microbiologist and new mom Bernadette Rostenkowski-Wolowitz on the hit comedy, began the essay by writing.
“Here is the only statement regarding my pregnancy that doesn’t make me feel like a complete fraud: Melissa is expecting her first child,”
She went on explaining how due to the previous miscarriage, she struggled a lot with sharing the news of her pregnancy.
“She is extremely overjoyed, but if she’s being honest, due to the fact that she had a miscarriage the last time she was pregnant, she’s pretty much terrified at the moment that it will happen again.”
Rauch said she felt “guilty” about announcing her pregnancy. As during her darkest times, she found it difficult to hear other people’s news.
The actress also wrote how she expects that the heartwrenching experience helps her being a better mother.
“I know it’s made me grateful for every moment of my current pregnancy. I hope it will make me a better mother in some capacity when I can finally hold the child that has been in my heart in my arms.”
Finally, Rauch expressed an encouraging and supportive message for those who are facing a battle similar to hers.
“So, to all the women out there who are dealing with fertility issues, have gone through a miscarriage or are going through the pain of it currently, allow me to leave you with this message: You are not alone. And, it is perfectly OK to not be OK right now.”
Winston and Melissa’s little bundle of joy is set to arrive this fall. Congratulations to the new family.
Bringing awareness over miscarriages
The actress decided to pen the essay for Glamour. She considered sharing her experience would help other going through the same journey.
In the essay, Rauch explained that becoming pregnant following a struggle with infertility, the actress, and her screenwriter husband said they were blindsided when they experienced a miscarriage, which Rauch said was “desperately lonely”.
The actress also explains that experiencing the loss of their baby, triggered a primal depression in her.
“Sure, I had happy moments and life went on, but the heartbreak was always lurking. Inescapable reminders, like the unfulfilled due date, came around like a heavy cloud.”
Dealing with this personal battle and the grief made her realized that there’s no much room for the talk regarding miscarriage. Rauch called out for the normalization, or at least a broader acceptance, of this issue.
“What I realized, though, is that because this kind of loss is not openly talked about nearly as much as it should be, there really is no template for how to process these emotions.”
She’s really brave
As the intimate essay goes on, Rauch takes issue with the medical term ‘miscarriage’ as she believes it suggests a woman’s body has failed.
“Miscarriage deserves to be ranked as one of the worst, most blame-inducing medical terms ever,” she said.
“To me, it immediately conjures up an implication that it was the woman’s fault like she somehow ‘mishandled the carrying of this baby’.”
She also called out for people discussing women’s reproduction as a banal subject. She highlighted that every person is dealing a different battle, and maybe don’t want to discuss it with everybody.
“Before any of us ask a woman about popping out a baby, let’s think to ourselves: We don’t know what she’s going through, what her body is capable of, or what she personally desires. Whether a woman wants to have children or not, if she wants to share that information, she will,” she said.
Well done Melissa.
Opening up about miscarriage
Just like Rauch did, celebrities have opened about pregnancy related struggles before. All in the hopes that it could help someone going through a similar pain.
Carly Patterson, Virginia Williams, and Beyoncé have also opened up about miscarriages.
In her 2013 HBO documentary ‘Life Is But a Dream’, the Grammy winner revealed that she suffered a miscarriage before having daughter Blue Ivy. The singer spoke about learning she was pregnant and the pain that came when she learned she lost the baby.
“About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time,” Beyoncé said. “And I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life.”
But before she could share the good news, the singer had complications in the early stages. “I flew back to New York to get my checkup – and no heartbeat,” she said
Fuller House star Virginia Williams penned an essay about the issue.
“Each pregnancy loss was incredibly heartbreaking. In fact, I believe that miscarriage is one of the most painful trials a woman can go through,” Williams wrote.
“Yet, miscarriage is rarely discussed publicly. We don’t tend to want to talk about, and therefore re-live, the bad things that happen to us.”
Yet, is a much-needed conversation.
Source: Daily Mail
