We accept the love we think we deserve, how true do you think this phrase is? Well, it turns out to be truer than true. Dealing with our emotions is always a hard thing to do, and when it comes to love and our relationships with others, is even more difficult. So, this video explains why sometimes we push away those who are attracted to us and show us their affection.
The thing is that most times we don’t know how to deal with all the affection someone shows towards us, because we don’t feel worthy of that affection. So, we start sabotaging the relationship to prove the other that we are not what they think we are. We do this because we don’t have such a high concept of ourselves. We don’t think we are that cool and hence we don’t deserve that love.
We all desire love, but sometimes we push away the person once we know the feelings are reciprocate.
We think the person is needy or just too affective.
Because truth is, sometimes it’s easier to just worry about our love being not reciprocate, than dealing with deep feelings and fears.
So, once we know the feelings are reciprocate, then we suddenly start feeling sick about the other person.
We start thinking we got them wrong, and that they are not what we thought.
But truth is, the real issue is us, and not them. Especially, our relationship with ourselves.
So, their affection seems incomprehensible for us because it doesn’t fit with the perception we have of ourselves.
We prefer to be hurt in ways we already know and that are familiar to us.
And we start acting in disgusting ways to show them they are wrong about us.
Because how could someone be that great if they have such a bad taste to like us.
But maybe this affection you’re receiving is not a sign of weakness, maybe the other person just saw something in you that you haven’t seen in yourself yet.
We are deserving and capable of love, despite our history of past relations or fears.